How many times have we have heard those words? I was raised to be considerate of everyone we meet and have endeavoured to do just that. Yet I haven't always found the same returned and I often wondered why. What I have discovered over the years was there was one key person whom I missed applying that rule to.
That person was me.
If I did not treat myself with respect how could I possibly expect others to treat me any different?
I grew up doubting myself and took that well into adulthood. Everything I did I would doubt whether it was the 'right' thing to do. I wanted reassurance with every decision I made from someone who could give me the nod.
Even with assurance I would still have doubt. In fact, I became quite adept at sabotaging my efforts and effectively pulled the rug out from the very essence of who I was because I would not believe that my opinion or thoughts were of any importance most especially to myself. I could find fault in everything I did. That insidiously grew and I soon found fault with how I looked. I could pick out every flaw in my face and body.
Yet I still knew I wanted to grow. I wanted to make changes without really knowing what those changes were. I took business courses, got married, had children, took more courses and doubted every decision as I made them. What did I think I was going to do in business? Was I marrying the right man? Would I even make a good mother? What was I thinking?
Making any change took it's toll on me physically as I mustered thru my life. It actually had physical ramifiations in the form of stress. We all know that stress can cause many illnesses and conditions.
There was another caveat to all of this. If someone were to criticize every step you made, how you looked or spoke, what you were capable of or constantly used that phrase of you can't in relation to eveything you tried to do. Would you like that person very well? The answer would be a resounding no!
Hence, I also developed a dislike toward myself and no wonder. In retrospect can you guess what that change was that I was looking for? It was actually pretty simple. Really. It was that self talk. It was me being my own advocate and having faith in myself. It was me accepting myself unconditionally just as I would expect that acceptance from others.
How we speak to ourselves internally is of vital importance. Have you ever considered that? If you were anything like I was please, please, please go back to the title and change it up a bit. Treat yourself as you would want to be treated.
I was asked about the tarot card reading that my main character receives and how I knew so much about it. So I thought that I would explain how I stumbled upon it. A number of years ago I had one done and found it fascinating and uncannily accurate. I did not know the women who presented the reading and they only had my first name when I booked the appointment. I was a true sceptic before I had the first one done. But after... well, let's just say that I started to doubt my doubts. The second one described my children to a T. They described the gender, order and most especially their personalities. I went the following year and again after that. Each and every time they were accurate and not because I tried to fit what they were saying but with words that were distinct. My curiosity was piqued. I asked how they did it and was told that anyone could do it and with the same accuracy. They gave lessons. Of course, I took the lessons and for six weeks dutifully studied and did the homework. I also self studied the art of the Tarot for two years after that almost daily. I now know that it can be done and have managed to do some fairly accurate readings myself. How? Well that is beyond me but I can safely say it is that intuitive sense that we all have and if you are a mother you most certainly have exercised it as well. It is a God given gift that some have learned to tap into over the years using various modalities. The Tarot being only one of them. For you my readers I will provide the first three people with a free reading who send me an email to let me know they have read and provided a rating for the book.
I thank each and everyone of you who have taken the time and provided me with tremendous feedback!